About 18 months
ago, I went to the funeral of one of our oldest residents in town. Her son
spoke about how she wanted to live to be a 100 and that from childhood, his
mother had told him that when it came time to die, a priest needed to be with
you for it to be a good death. When at 96 his mother had a heart attack and was
rushed to the hospital, he continued to okay extreme measures, per her living
will, until the priest could get there. Once he arrived, the son had all interventions
stopped. Ultimately, his mother, while not making it to 100, had the death that
she would have deemed “good.”
This past week
the news media has been filled with stories of the 87 year old woman who
collapsed in the dinning area of a senior living center, and for seven minutes,
a 911 operator begged a staff member to either perform CPR or get
someone else to do it. The replaying of the 911 tape was horrific to listen to
and/or watch. Needless to say it has created quite the media sensation.
The woman’s
family was very clear that their mom wanted a “natural death” and would not
have wanted CPR or any other measures taken. In fact she choose this particular
independent living center knowing the facility did not have medical
staff. Long story short, while the family isn’t interested in suing, all sorts
of investigations are ongoing. The staff member who made the initial call is
now on “voluntary” leave.
The Bayless
family sent the Associated Press the following statement, "It was our
beloved mother and grandmother's wish to die naturally and without any kind of
life prolonging intervention. We understand that the 911 tape of this event has
caused concern, but our family knows that mom had full knowledge of the limitations
of Glenwood Gardens and is at peace."
In both
situations, the person ultimately had the type of death they wanted because
they had made their wishes known and had taken measures to ensure that it would
happen by putting it in writing, in the first case and in the second
instance by selecting where they lived.
Clearly people will differ on this. My point would be that, while “putting it in writing”(file a living will) is important, we significantly improve your chances of getting what we want if we have conversations with family and friends about final wishes and act according to our beliefs.
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