When I first started
working with HIV/AIDS in Vermont, because so many of the people with HIV were
diagnosed in other parts of the country, particularly large cities, the
expression was, “they came for the geographic cure.” Those that were involved
in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) would knowledgably shake their head and quote the
“Big Book,” “there is no such things as a “Geographical Cure” because “wherever
you go, there you are.” Some people did relapse and return to substance using.
However, there were a number that felt that the temptations and “triggers” for
using weren’t here for them. They also found supportive communities, and so
have done quite well with the “geographic cure.”
At the same time the
AA groups were not approving of the transplants, a number of Native Americans were
moving back to ancestor lands in Vermont and Canada. They would say, “Ah, I’m
back in country” and life became easier for many of them.
After living in
Vermont for over 25 years I understand both sides of this discussion. Moving
does not solve emotional problems and for the most part, moving for a fresh
start, without having dealt with underlying or “root” issues is only going to
have minimal impact if any.
If you find yourself
continually moving, and it’s not because of a job transfer, you might want to
think seriously about your feelings of discontent and address them before you
plan your next big move.
According to
Blue Zones research,
one of the biggest contributors to our happiness is the community in which we
live. More than income, education level, or religion, the place where you live
determines your level of happiness. Look for neighborhoods with sidewalks,
meeting places and other characteristics that nudge you into social
interaction. Easy access to green spaces and recreation also favors well-being.
To better understand the community you live in, consider how it meets the following characteristics:
• Community
Space: Are there parks, cafes, restaurants and places where
community can and does gather? Are there community events that bring people
together?
• Quiet
Surroundings: Human’s don’t adapt to noise and in fact there are
many studies which show that even constant low level noise increases
cardiovascular disease and other health problems.
• Walking: Can
you walk to church, parks, grocery stores etc.? Check your community’s WalkScore to
find out how it fares in terms of walkability.
•
Safety: Do you feel safe in your community?
• Good
friends and social connections: Do you have good friends where you
live. According to Dan Buettner of Blue Zones, "the happiest people in America
socialize about seven hours a day....you're three times more likely to be happy
if you are married ... and each new friend will boost your happiness about 10
percent."
•
Employment: Can you find a job in and around your community?
Weather is also a major contributor, which you can’t
control, but it does make a big difference in how people feel. My son and
husband can’t stand gray weather for very long. It caused my husband to give up
a great community in Seattle and my son to change colleges after a year in
Paris. At the same time a raindrop makes them shutter, a good friend in Vermont
hates it if there are too many sunny days in a row. She claims that she should
be living someplace where it’s perpetually rainy. In short, different people enjoy different
types of weather and at different times of their lives.
There is also the culture of a community to consider. Coming from a fairly southern city, it has
been a big adjustment for me to try and live in a rural northern New England
town. Fences don’t make good neighbors where I came from, but that is standard
practice where I now live. I grew up in a “porch sit” culture, which doesn’t
exist here. I miss it terribly and while I’ve tried to introduce aspects of
this into my community, I truly am the
odd man out.
Changing where you live is not easy, particularly if
you are there because of a job, family and/or it’s what you can afford. You can improve how you react to your
community by seeking out social gathering places; trying to meet new people by
being involved in different activities; volunteering; seeking out green space
and places to exercise; and helping to create the community you want to live
in. Check out the Blue Zones Thrive Centers for more suggestions.
The bottom line is this: Where you live does impact
your sense of well-being and health.
If you find yourself continually thinking “I really
don’t belong here,” chances are you don’t. We do take our emotional baggage wherever
we go, but community should not be adding to it.
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