Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Take a Break: Create a “Take a Break” Area/Massage


Several weeks ago, I spoke with a woman who was caring for her elderly Mom who had memory issues, was reluctant to leave the house and most likely was depressed. Consequently, Emily (not her name) was beside herself trying to figure out what to do with her Mom.

Among the things I suggested was creating a "take a break" area for Mom, where she could do some simple arts and crafts projects, puzzles etc. but still be with the family. While I made other recommendations to help Mom, the one that Emily was able to easily implement was creating a craft area for her Mom in the family room. The results were dramatic. Not only did memory improve, but Mom was now staying up longer, engaging with the family and spending many happy hours drawing, working on puzzles etc. She was so inspired she even managed to make dinner for the family one night.

Taking a break and using your hands is very healing Having an area where things are organized just makes it more likely that you will take a break and make something.

My husband became tired of my stuff being spread out all over the place, and my constantly saying, “Have you seen my scissors (substitute just about anything).” He made me an area, with lots of shelves, to store all my “take a break” stuff.

I find that it’s not only very helpful to have everything in one place, but other members of my family can be found there periodically working on their own projects.

Not only is a “take a break” area suitable for home, but think about it for your office, waiting room, hospital, staff lounge, health center or business.

Location: Who uses the “take a break” area will determine its location and how you equip it. If you are making it for an elder living with you, or for kids, create it in a corner of an area where the family naturally gathers. If you want privacy, pick a place with little or no foot traffic, such as your bedroom, attic or basement. However, try to place it near a window for natural lighting.

Organizing the area: You will want a flat surface to work on, a chair, lighting, electrical outlet, electric strip and storage. While shelves are great, a desk with drawers underneath, or even an old door laid on two saw horses, with boxes on the floor and peg board on the wall are also fine. Work with what you have. Mason jars; tins and even yogurt containers are great for stashing paintbrushes, colored pencils etc. for both storage and easy access.

Stocking it: While you’ll want the basics of things like colored pencils, markers, paper, tape and scissors, depending on what interests you, stock it with what the person likes to do. While I do a lot with fabric, I tend to keep my fiber and sewing area separate from my general supplies of paints, glues, beads and other things that don’t necessarily mix well.

If you are creating a “take a break” area for someone else, things to consider include:
• Different types of paper, colored pencils, markers, paints (tempera, water colors, acrylics, fabric) scissors, brushes and tape. I have a shelf dedicated to different colors of Duct Tape.
• Clay-Model Magic is terrific for creating items that can air dry. For finer detailed work, such as jewelry, use polymer clay. This will require baking.
• Ribbons, colored string, wire
• Glues of various sorts including a glue gun
• Punches
• Puzzles
• Mandalas to color or paint
• Check out Archives 8/09-10/12 for hundreds of “Take a Break” ideas.
 

Looking for a different “take a break?” I was exploring Indian head and neck massage and came across Wings of Knowledge website. Lots of free videos and instruction on massage techniques, including self-massage, yoga, meditation etc.


Saturday, January 12, 2013

Part II: Creating positive health outcomes for patients: Five Things Patients can do


Continuing with the four part series on Creating Positive Health Outcomes, last week was Five Things Family/Friends Can Do, this week’s focus is what patients can do.

Today’s health care is  “patient centered,” which requires that the patient and/or their designee, make choices and decisions about treatments, tests etc. Since this is a shift from the “provider down” approach of old, it can be confusing, frustrating and challenging. It means that patients need to be as clear as they can be about what they want, so if the situation arises where they can’t speak for themselves, their wishes are carried out. As we age, this brings its own set of unique issues, particularly if there are no children or family to represent them.

As my brother-in-law noted recently, Whether family or friends, an individual anticipating decline must increase her/his awareness of the shortfalls which may occur in his/her care, whether hospital, nursing home or at home.  Part of growing older is losing friends and family so this may require building new networks of friends or family whose mandate is health management advocacy agreed to in a reciprocal compact.  This means conversation and planning in an informal forward looking way among the team members in an effort to take a role in each other’s care. 

As you go through the five things patients can do, you will see overlap. For example, “Keeping a health notebook” appears under three headings simply because it’s a good way to tract what happens and it helps when information doesn’t make it into the medical chart. Unfortunately, missing information from a patient’s chart is a very common occurrence and can compromise care.

1. Know your rights and responsibilities as a patient and act accordingly: Most hospitals, health centers and even states have specified rights and responsibilities. Be sure to check these sources. Below are general guidelines on rights and responsibilities.

You have the right to:
• Considerate and respectful care regardless of race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, age, sexual orientation, gender, payment source or health care condition.

• Current and understandable information concerning diagnosis, treatment and prognosis. Expect reasonable assistance to overcome language (including limited English proficiency), cultural, physical or communication barriers.

• The identity of the physician, nurses and others involved in your care, including those who are students, residents or other trainees.

• Work with medical providers in establishing the plan of care, including the refusal of a recommended treatment, without the fear of reprisal or discrimination. Be told of realistic care alternatives when the current treatment is no longer working

•  Privacy and the expectation that all records and communication are treated as confidential.

• Your medical records.. Request that your provider amend your record if it is not accurate, relevant or complete

• Expect that an advance directive (such as a living will, health care power of attorney) will be honored by the medical staff.

• Receive timely notice and explanation of changes in fees or billing practices.

• Voice concerns, complaints and questions about care and expect a timely response.

• Expect that the medical caregivers will give the necessary health services to the best of their ability. If a transfer of care is recommended, you should be informed of the benefits and alternatives.

• Access to emergency services. In the event of a medical emergency, where you believe your life is in danger, you have the right to receive screening and stabilization without prior authorization or financial penalty.

As a Patient, You Have the Responsibility To:
• Provide your medical caregivers with accurate and complete information, and convey your understanding about what is expected of you in regard to your treatment. If you believe you cannot follow through with your treatment, let them know. Inform them of changes in your condition, care situation or modification or completion of important legal forms, such as advanced directives

• Meet your financial obligations as promptly as possible.

• Be considerate of the rights of other patients and medical personnel while in the hospital.

• Recognize the reality of risks and limits of the science of medical care and the human fallibility of the health care professional.

• Be aware of the health care provider's obligation to be reasonably efficient and equitable in providing care to other patients and the community.

• Become knowledgeable about your health care plan.

• Keep appointments and notify your provider if unable to do so.

For more information

2. Advocate for yourself.
Ask questions. Ask for what you need. Ask for your medical information (tests, treatments, records etc.)
Decisions: You are in charge of deciding what you want to happen. Don’t pretend you understand if you don’t. Don’t stay with a provider you don’t feel comfortable with them.                    
Voice your concerns.
Organize a health record and keep it up to date.
Communicate with your provider, family and friends.  Communicate what you want and feel-Be specific and put it in writing Communicating includes listening. Consider your priorities-what is it that you need and want.  Calling your provider-know how to reach them in case of emergency.  Choose health information carefully. Consider a second opinion. Choice-You have the right to refuse treatment
Advocate: Ask a family member or friend to help you get what you need.
Talk to others: Join a support group. Team: You and your provider are a team. You are the captain of the team. Treat your care team with respect and honesty. Take a “friend with a pen” to office visits. Think about questions in advance and write them down. Take your time in making a decision that will change your life Take responsibility for the decisions you make.
Educate yourself and others about your condition. Learn about local resources that can help you. Expert: You are the expert on you.

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3. Be clear about what you want and need. Letting your medical provider, caregivers,  family and friends know what you want and need up front and in writing can save time, energy, reduce frustration, helps you get what you want and could even save your life. 
• Fill out advance directives, designate a health proxy, and be clear who people can go to for information about how you are doing and what you might need.
• If you have a serious condition, where it’s important for someone treating you in an emergency situation to know about, wear a medic alert bracelet as well as carry written instructions about what you might need, medications you are on etc. If you are unable to communicate, be sure to have accessible written information that you want them to know. It can help if you have your medical provider include a letter about your treatment protocol and how to contact them. Note that there are services, like MedicAlert  that can provide immediate information to appropriate medical responders with everything from advance directives, do not resuscitate orders, to important medical information. They will even contact your family if you desire.
• ICE your cell phone: Make sure your cell phone contains an In Case of Emergency number(s).

4. Manage Your Health
• Keep a health notebook: You can now do this on-line. 
• Maintain healthy habits by:
-       Reducing sugar & caffeine in your diet;
-       Limiting alcohol to a glass of wine daily if allowed with current medications;
-    Regular exercise as health permits (consider yoga, Tai Chi and Qigong); 
-       Getting sufficient sleep
•  Keep medical appointments
• Identify resources in your community that can help you get what you need. Use the Getting What You Need Checklist
• Develop and maintain good relationships with your health providers

Additional Information

5. Be aware of health fraud: If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. People with chronic/life threatening conditions are often the target of fraud. The fact that serious illness causes great suffering, and can lead to death, has encouraged the marketing of hundreds of unproven treatments. Learn more about scams and health fraud. 

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Take a Break: Replace the Christmas Tree/Percussion


I come from a tradition where the Christmas tree goes up on Christmas eve, and stays until January 6. After 12 days, when the tree comes down, it leaves a big hole. I miss the tiny lights more than anything.

Living in Vermont, people do all sorts of creative things with birch and other tree limbs, branches and saplings. Several people I know have taken large pots, put branches in them and strung them with lights. They are a wonderful part of their décor and cost little to create.

You may not want a floor to ceiling length tree limb in your home, but a vase with twigs and small branches, sprinkled with tiny lights can give you the same effect. You can even decorate it with small hearts for Valentine’s Day, shamrocks for St. Patrick’s and so forth.

So take a break today by going outside and finding twigs (or a limb) and create a new décor piece to brighten the New Year.





I was totally inspired this week by the Siberian Percussionists playing ice sheets on Lake Baikal. particularly when compared to their “land” video. 

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Creating positive health outcomes for patients: Five Things Family/Friends can do



This past week, I dealt with a number of people who are coping with a wide array of chronic and acute health care issues. Unfortunately, I witnessed a variety of ways patient care was compromised -understaffing; vital information not entered into a chart; a patient falling because the alarm buzzer hadn’t been set on their bed and so forth. When I discussed this with my sister, who has been a nurse for well over 35 years, she said, “It’s always been like this. ” Other people I talked to agreed with her and made comments along the same line, often shrugging their shoulders, telling their own horror stories, and saying, “So what’s new?" What can you do?” 

At this juncture, complacency isn’t an option, particularly with the aging population and the arrival of Obama care. It’s time we each do what we can do to make this better. Making a change in one area can create a whole new way of thinking and doing.

On New Year’s Day, I sent an e-mail to colleagues and friends detailing some of what I had witnessed and posing a challenge-to implement a demonstration project that would improve care that can be replicated for nominal costs.  This has created some very interesting dialogue and good suggestions. As a result, this is Part I of a four part series where I will be posting five suggestions each, for family/friends, patients, communities and hospitals, which they can do to improve health outcomes for patients.

My goal is to identify straight forward approaches that have minimal or no costs associated with them, are effective based on research and/or from those with extensive experience working in the field, and can be easily implemented in a variety of settings.

Please post your comments, suggestions and relevant resources below, or e-mail them to me at margoc@tds.net At the completion of the series, the posts, along with additional comments and suggestions, will be formatted into a simple PDF handout, which will be available by e-mailing margoc@tds.net

Five Things Family/Friends Can do to Create Positive Health Outcomes for Patients
Your relationship with the patient, how close you live to them, as well as the nature of their condition, will determine the full measure of what you can realistically do. However, whether you are a caregiver, or a distant neighbor,  everyone can do something, even if it’s just sending e-mails or notes of support.

1. Respond. How to Respond When You Learn that Someone is Ill or Injured is one of the most frequently downloaded items on this blog. It’s clear that many want to help but don’t know how. Read this post to learn simple ways you can provide support regardless of where you live or who the patient might be.

2. Learn to be an effective advocate. When a person is compromised by age, a variety of chronic conditions, critically ill,  and/or has been newly diagnosed with a very serious condition, they need help. Even on a good day, people only retain a portion of what transpires in a medical office visit, so if you’re very sick or compromised in some way, you may have no clue what the provider is telling you. Research shows that taking a advocate to appointments results in better visits and ultimately better patient care. 

Become a “Friend with a Pen.” Go to medical appointments, as well as visits with case managers, social service agencies and other places where they receive either medical care or social services support. Take notes, speaking up when the patient is unable to do so and with their approval when possible. 

Stay with them in the hospital, helping them obtain the care they have specified and need.

Further reading on this topic:
• Hospitalized: A Three part series to help patients get better care when hospitalized


3. Help them navigate the health and social service systems. Using the “Getting What You Need: Checklist" understand what the person might need and know what is available locally. This handout includes information on the following:
-       Resource numbers/websites-Among the resources are connecting with the local chapters of condition specific organizations, such as the American Cancer Society. These groups will often have advocates and case managers that can make this process a lot easier. They can also provide easy to understand information about the condition, treatment plans etc.
-       Building and organizing support networks-Don’t go it alone.
-       Legal issues
-       Health Insurance and paying for health care/medications/non medical needs
-       Benefits-disability, supplemental, worker’s compensation
-       Life settlements, viaticals, reverse mortgages
-       End of life care
-       Work-disability, vocational rehabilitation
-       Maintaining a personal health notebook
-       Case management
-       Decision making

4. Encourage them to be an effective/empowered patient: While there are times that family/friends need to take the lead, in general patients are their own best advocate. Since 99% of chronic care takes place outside of a medical facility, it is important that the patient recognize that they are in charge of their own care. Besides, research shows that more involved patients do better. You can help them in taking responsibility for their care by:
-       Role modeling advocacy skills
-       Letting them take the lead and only stepping in when they need help or are unable to speak for themselves.
-       Helping them set goals about what they want for themselves as far as healthy outcomes, treatments etc. This can be done in a number of ways- having them outline areas of concern prior to medical appointments; framing questions and concerns in ways that are more likely to get a response; identifying underlying and root issues to problems; completing legal documents, such as advanced directives; keeping a personal health notebook
-       Accepting what they tell you
-       Encouraging them to learn more about their condition, joining a support group etc.

Keep in mind that regardless of how helpful you want to be, it’s their life. You may not agree with what they are choosing to do, but it’s ultimately their choice to do what they believe is right for them.

Note that if the patient is capable of doing things on their own, and you do it instead, regardless of reason (they take to long; they may not do it right) you under mind their ability to do things on their own. 

5. Be a Healthy Caregiver: If you are in the role of primary care giver, it’s important that you take care of yourself. Use the Caregiver Resources page to learn about self-care as well as the various challenges of care giving and ways to deal with them. Note that there is also a Youth Caregiver page. 

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Take a Break: Make a Joy Jar/Secret Behind Mind Reading


As a follow up to this past Saturday’s post Joy: Embrace it for Healing, I thought making a joy jar would be a great way to reinforce the idea of paying attention to the positive events in one’s life. It’s also a nice way to start off the New Year.

The idea is simple, decorate a jar, vase, box or whatever strikes your fancy. Each day, take a slip of paper and write at least one positive thing you’ve experienced, are grateful for, and/or made you have a moment of joy. These are often simple things like seeing a cardinal at your bird feeder, a crisp snowy morning with the sun shinning, the smell of coffee that your spouse made so you could sleep a little later, a phone call from a good friend, good test results from your last medical appointment and so forth.

Slip the paper into your jar and at the end of a week, month, or year; take the time to read them.

Ideas for decorating:


You can also post your gratitude on-line  and be part of an international experience of sharing gratitude.

For something completely different, watch a 2 minute video to see what’s behind the amazing mind reader. 

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Joy: Embrace It for Healing


The second word of the holiday season I’ve been thinking about is “joy.” [Last week’s post was Believe-It Effects How we Feel]How often do we let ourselves totally enjoy it?

Four years ago on New Year’s Eve, I took a neighbor and friend to their monthly medical appointment, where they were continuing to be monitored for a return of lung cancer. It was a very good visit, and as we were leaving the hospital, I said, “we have much to celebrate tonight.” While she had been happy to report “everything is fine,” she became a bit sad and said, “It’s fine now, but the cancer will return.”

Last week I came across a quote from Brene Brown, which would have been a good response to this comment.  “Don’t squander joy. We can’t prepare for tragedy and loss. When we turn every opportunity to feel joy into a test drive for despair, we actually diminish our resilience. Yes, softening into joy is uncomfortable. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it’s vulnerable. But every time we allow ourselves to lean into joy and give in to those moments, we build resilience and we cultivate hope. The joy becomes part of who we are, and when bad things happen—and they do happen—we are stronger.”

Our brains are wired to make us fearful, as for centuries, being on guard kept us from being eaten by the tiger. “Yes, the hunt was successful, but it could attract animals that could steal the food and/or kill us.” In short, we have been “programmed” and have a lot of practice at tamping down our joy.

Since emotions and experiences leave lasting impressions on the brain, which influences how we feel, it’s important to understand that one negative experience can wreck many positive ones. Have you been at a party, on vacation or had a visit with a friend, where 99% of it was fun and very enjoyable, yet one negative thing happened and that becomes the lasting memory? Now if you’ve talked about this with friends, some will say, “just let it go and concentrate on the good stuff.” Good advice, but one we have little practice doing.

 “Imprinting” our brain with positive thoughts and joy, as Brown noted, has some very important benefits including:
-       They lower the stress response in the body.
-       Increase resilience and can counter act the effects of trauma
-       Help to protect against depression
-       Increase well being

In order to emphasize the positive through conscious attention, Rick Hanson’s, author of Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, outlines Three Simple Steps as part of Seven Facts about the Brain That Incline the Mind to Joy 
1. Help positive events become positive experiences. You can do this by:
• Paying attention to the good things in your world, and inside yourself. So often, good events roll by our eyes without us noticing them. You could set a goal each day to actively look for beauty in your world, or signs of caring for you by others, or good qualities within yourself, etc.

• Deciding to let yourself feel pleasure and be happy, rather than feel ascetic or guilty about enjoying life. In particular, release any resistance for feeling good about yourself. You've earned the good times: the meal is set before you, it's already paid for, and you might as well dig in! You are just being fair, seeing the truth of things. You are not being vain or arrogant - which distort the truth of things.

• Opening up to the emotional and sensate aspects of your responses to positive events, since that is the pathway to experiencing things.

• Sometimes doing things deliberately to create positive experiences for yourself. For example, you could take on a challenge, or do something nice for others, or bring to mind feelings of compassion and caring, or call up the sense or memory of feeling contented, peaceful, and happy.

2. Extend the experience in time and space:
• Keep your attention on it so it lingers; don't just jump onto something else. Notice any discomfort with staying with feeling good.

• Let it fill your body with positive sensations and emotions. (That’s the space part.)

In sum, savor, relish the positive experience. It's delicious!

3. Sense that the positive experience is soaking into your brain and body - registering deeply in emotional memory.

Perhaps imagine that it's sinking into your chest and back and brainstem. Maybe imagine a treasure chest in your heart.

Take the time to do this: 5 or 10 or 20 seconds. Keep relaxing your body and absorbing the positive experience.

As Hanson notes, The innate neurological circuitry of your mind poses a very real challenge: positive stimuli tend to roll through it while negative stimuli get flagged and captured and deferred to. But you can consciously override those tendencies in simple and effective ways each day, by focusing on positive experiences, valuing them, and helping them sink in.

That’s a deeply wise and wonderful undertaking: happiness is skillful means. And happily for happiness, this is aligned with your deepest nature: awake, interested, benign, at peace, and quietly inclined to joy.

In keeping with this post, the last one for 2012, I send you best wishes for a joyous New Year.

















Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Take a Break: Celebrate St. Stephen’s Day/Napping


The day after Christmas is the perfect time for a nap. One where you curl up with a good book, soothing music, comfy sofa, or reading chair and a warm “blankie.” Read a few pages and doze. Enjoy.

St. Stephen’s Day is the opposite of napping. Celebrated on Dec. 26, this is a holiday in Ireland that has little to do with the saint, who was the first martyr stoned to death shortly after the crucifixion.  Also called “Hunting the Wren” or “Going on the Wren,” originally, groups of small boys would hunt for a wren, and then chase the bird until they either caught it or it died from exhaustion. The dead bird was tied to the top of a pole or holly bush, which was decorated with ribbons or colored paper.

Early in the morning of St. Stephen’s Day, the wren was carried from house to house by the boys, who wore straw masks or blackened their faces with burnt cork, and dressed in old clothes (often women’s dresses.) At each house, the boys sing the Wren Boys’ song. There are many versions and variations of this song, including the following:
The wren, the wren, the king of all birds,
On St. Stephen’s Day was caught in the furze,
Although he is little, his family is great,
I pray you, good landlady, give us a treat.

My box would speak, if it had but a tongue,
And two or three shillings, would do it not wrong,
Sing holly, sing ivy–sing ivy, sing holly,
A drop just to drink, it would drown melancholy.

And if you draw it of the best,
I hope in heaven your soul will rest;
But if you draw it of the small,
It won’t agree with these wren boys at all.

Sometimes those who gave money were given a feather from the wren for good luck. The money collected by the Wren Boys was used to hold a dance for the whole village. http://www.noblenet.org/year/ststephen/

Today wrens are no longer killed and girls as well as boys go on the wren. Traditional dancing and music are part of the celebration, along with prizes for best costume and Irish food. The money collected is often used for community projects.

 Ways to celebrate:



• Listen to The Chieftains - "St. Stephen's Day Murders" featuring Elvis Costello. Note this is a tongue in check tribute to the murders people would like to commit on St. Stephen’s Day